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Book Review-The Moment I Knew: Reflections from Women on Life’s Defining Moments

She was a child in the 60s living with a family of abusers. Her sexual abuse at the hands of her brothers would remain their secret. When a lady she admired for being strong willed and outspoken came to her rescue, she had to deny everything and keep the family secrets… 

The doctor gave her two choices: a. “You can stay home and wait for the miscarriage to complete” or,

 b. “You can come to the hospital in the morning for a D&C” an invasive surgery to clean the fetus from her womb…

He is sixteen, her only son and brother to her two daughters. They are  a loving family. He loves them and they love him. He has ADHD and they will always take care of him until the punch and that became “The Moment I Knew.”

The Moment I Knew: Reflections from Women on Life’s Defining Moments, is the 2nd book in Terri S. Nelson’s Reflections From Women Series. It is an awesome compilation of 3o women spanning the globe, who bravely share their essays and poems with other women and men on their journey to wholeness.

Some of the stories are heartbreaking. Some uplifting and all inspiring in their message of hope, renewal and growth. I remember when my essay was chosen for the premier book in the series, When One Door Closes: Reflections from Women on Life’s Turning Points, published in 2010. It’s a feeling of euporia and humility. As the women of The Moment I Knew can attest; Being among such brave and strong women from such diverse backgrounds, all coming together to share their journey, becomes a humbling experience.

The stories in The Moment I Knew draws the reader into the devastation of miscarriage. Death. Abuse. Diagnosed Illness. Divorce and Separation from family and culture… It also shows us the resilience of women, even when mired in weakness, indeciviseness and fear.

The Moment I Knew: Reflections from Women on Life’s Defining Moments is an easy read with 188 pages. It’s also a book that’s going to inspire you to keep going even in your darkest days. I truly kept these women stories in my mind long after finishing the book. The update about each author at the end of their essay is an added bonus. 

To purchase a copy of The Moment I Knew and the first book in The Reflections from Women Series, visit www.sugatpublications.com

 Thanks to Terri S. Nelson for providing a complimentary copy of The Moment I Knew for review.


100 Twitter Followers And Counting!

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Ok, sooo I’m knowing it’s not that many folks, but, let me just reiterate “one small step” well you get the deal and it is a big deal for clara54 to have folks interested in what’s going on in her world as a transitional nurse, writer and lover of all creatives in the blogosphere and offline as well:)  I seem to have a few sparks flying in my direction these days, some good, some tolerable and some just dang irritating.

First off the dang irritating stuff: Had to send my beautiful laptop off to the geek squad. Discovered a virus, so it’s at the doctors for diagnosis and treament. My main and fairly new computer toppled down from its resting place, landing face down on the desk and so, again, having sluggish days here. Correction, more like posting days that resemble molasses in winter. Can you say, slooow ? Anyway, I won’t be publishing the great stuff (and there are great posts ahead) until I’m feeling confident & great about this technology.

Some good came out of the reading material I’ve been asked to look over these last weeks. From author & nurse, Karen Lowry’s request to help bring awareness to ADHD from her book The Seventh Inning Sit:A JOURNEY OF ADHD, I became intrigued by the subject matter and as a nurse, wanted to explore this diagnosis in African-American children as well. My curiousity led to a guest column in a local Illinois newspaper. I was also asked by the editor to review a book on politics for another column and I’m happy to report that a friend’s request to help her friend with a speech of dire importance was quite humbling and honored to be trusted by these people to assist in such a delicate subject matter (legalities here) 

The Tolerable: Working a “day” job. Knowing full well the gig that keeps the financial hounds at bey. It pangs me to continue this route when all I want to do is write. Looking forward to some time off in a few weeks:) and this bit of troll stuff that I’ve noticed. The small stuff  folks of character would never respond & give up their power to! It all comes with the territory of the freelance writer, ever emerging into the writer the world will soon come to know lol! 

The Drumroll: My Twitter pals have grown to 100 and counting!  Thanks to all who follow & I won’t disappoint, promise!… Ok, now, I’ve got to try and post over at my motivational blog for women,(wisewoman2) before this computer goes kaput!  Hopefully things will get back to normal soon:)

Exploring Teen ADHD With Karen Lowry

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Karen Lowry has a story to tell and I’m grateful she is giving clara54’s readers insights into teen ADHD.

Stop  ADHD Teens From Dropping Out:  What Parents Must Know About Early Intervention  

( Medford, NJ)   A new study has found that  teens with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) are more likely to drop out of high school or delay  completing high school than other kids. Researchers at the University of California, Davis,  analyzed U.S. data and found that nearly one-third of students with the most common type of  ADHD either drop out or delay high school graduation.

 That rate is twice that of students with no psychiatric disorder. Karen Lowry, parent advocate, and  author of THE SEVENTH INNING SIT: A JOURNEY OF ADHD, creates simple solutions for  families to be more pro-active in terms of early intervention.

Lowry says: ” The need to fix the problem is there, but we have to realize that it has to occur much before the child enters high school. Pitfalls leading to the failure of these kids originate both at home and school. Lack of support, modifications, and accommodations early on in areas of impairment promote  later failure in high school.”

According to Lowry, there are four key areas parents must consider  before they can help their child succeed academically:

  • Executive Functioning: Deficits in this area impact numerous needed abilities that contribute to success. Impairments in organizational skills, planning, and emotional control are a few. Without the tools to compensate for these difficulties, these kids struggle daily as they try to fulfill assignments, long and short term.


  • False Expectations: Expectations on the part of school personnel that do not reflect understanding of the symptoms creating impairment will further create low self-esteem and failure.


  • Parental  Involvement: Parents know their children the best. With enough information and support, they can and must advocate for their kids in the school system. In addition, with this knowledge comes the ability to maintain a healthy relationship with their child. They need to know that a parent is there in their corner and believes in them. Without the parents’ understanding of ADHD that leads to the importance of being positive and avoiding negative responses, this child can feel like a failure as part of the family. This will not contribute to a very needed healthy self-esteem as he tries to be successful in academics and other relationships.


  • Self -Advocacy: Early on, a child with ADHD needs to begin to understand himself. In elementary school, they know that they struggle and sometimes feel left behind. This only leads to helplessness and feelings of worthlessness. The ability to self- advocate contributes to the needed psychological strength to be able to make independent decisions, leading to a much needed healthy self-esteem. Certainly all children must respect their teachers. But teachers need to be able to accept the fact that kids with ADHD understand themselves and sometimes know better the occasional changes in classroom structure that will lead to better focus and accomplishment. One of these alterations would include the need to stand intermittently throughout the class period.


  • Teacher Involvement: Just like having a parent who believes in them, a teacher in the school system who they trust is important.  All school systems need to better understand ADHD and support children with impairments as a result of it. It is an invisible affliction that many do not believe exists.  Parents need to continue to educate themselves and advocate for  their children who are struggling in elementary school.  Waiting to enter into high school will many times be too late.


Karen Lowry: